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boughtonp 11-10-2023 09:39 AM

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Originally Posted by etcetera (Post 6464018)
I would do it myself if I could figure out how to.

Instructions are in the LQ Site FAQ.

Alternatively, simply logout and don't log back in.


Timothy Miller 11-10-2023 09:48 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by etcetera (Post 6464018)
Admins

next time you decide to assign me an infraction, just go ahead and skip intermediate measures and delete my entire account. I would do it myself if I could figure out how to.

Since you can't self-evidently deal with the above person stalking my posts and generating unwanted dialog with captive audience.

Respectfully yours,


I would point out it wasn't one of the mods or admins that gave you an infraction for this behaviour. It was the OWNER OF THE SITE. Maybe instead of complaining you could use this a learning moment, and do a little self-reflection to try to grow as a person?

dugan 11-10-2023 12:13 PM

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Originally Posted by etcetera (Post 6463935)
Interesting point you make

I have been in IT for a long time, actually I touched my first Unix box exactly 30 years ago, when DEC was still kind of big, scary how time flies. Then I did HP and Solaris for the longest time. I did not want to, but contracts just kept coming up.
When you do sysadmin professionally, get bitten by every conceivable type of crocodile.
I get irritated when some Linux Larva like TBone try to educate me who weren't even born yet (or so it seems) when I was already recompiling kernels on the "real thing" and writing assembler code and separate compilation and much other stuff. I did Unix for about 20 years, Linux for considerably less, probably 5-7 in sum. A lot of sysadmins had to transition from the "real" Unix to the cheaper "aftermarket" replacement, sigh.
What I learned, is that IT is fundamentally about people, processes, not command-line interface and options.

From what I have seen in the IT industry, having an Asperger personality disorder which manifests itself here at times actually immensely helps with the career, because perfectly normal people can't really deal with the workload and the tediousness of it. You cant' be normal and still grok this stuff. So, not a huge surprise.
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"Weird Al" Yankovic - White & Nerdy
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N9qYF9DZPdw

Okay boomer.

I mean, sheesh, the sense of entitlement is palpable.

etcetera 11-10-2023 12:48 PM

I tried to reach the owner of the site weeks ago regarding the aforementioned behavior, wasn't sure how to message him.
The only way to get attention was by posting here instead of more common sense PMs. So I did. We have PM functionality disabled. Now it's a moot point.
Since apparently there won't be a satisfactory resolution to this predicament I articulated even after escalation here. Since I can't use the site without being stalked and harassed in response to _every_ _single_ _article_ I post with a condescending and criticizing attitude from a single determined member, sanctioned apparently by the admins, which I find that unpalatable as a big picture. I tried to communicate my frustration, tried to identify other forms of engagement without mutual aggravation, it didn't register and no resolution was identified. It's a community of people, not perfect robots. Yet I am expected to perform like a automaton, caught in a "Seinfeld's Soup Nazi" episode lest I get a regular diet of acid liquid thrown at me in every response. God forbid some of the posts are somewhat redundant (as my understanding of the problem is more and more refined). A prime offense for sure. My vision is increasingly not aligned with the above processes. All this puts me in a position where the only possible resolution that I can identify at this point is to find another community I can help to grow, contribute to and learn within, not reward such delinquent behavior here with my responses and gather "infractions" if I decide to voice my legitimate frustration. I find that attitude especially alienating as an established, long-term member with a long professional experience in the field, not someone who came on board yesterday to troll here or seek conflict. It has been 20 years here and apparently 20 years is enough to seek greener pastures at this point. I tried and tried. Thank you for hosting me.
November 24th, 2023 - that's my resignation date. I am giving a 2 week notice, please delete my account and all my posts on 11/24/23. Respectfully yours.

dugan 11-10-2023 12:53 PM

So you did everything but take the advice and feedback you were given, and now you're not happy with the results of your decisions, your attitude and your behavior? Are you familiar with the phrase “personal responsibility”?

And btw...

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I am giving a 2 week notice, please delete my account and all my posts on 11/24/23.
Someone who was here for twenty years should obviously know that this would never be done.

business_kid 11-10-2023 01:27 PM

I'd let him go, urge him even.

I've received some fairly harsh replies here too, but usually I deserved them. I can only narrow my suspicions to two posters who might be getting under his skin. It's just as well he didn't join for the BSD forums! Some straight talking is done there.

shortarcflyer 11-10-2023 01:37 PM

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Originally Posted by etcetera (Post 6464051)
November 24th, 2023 - that's my resignation date. I am giving a 2 week notice, please delete my account and all my posts on 11/24/23. Respectfully yours.

Why wait 2 weeks? Why not just go now if you are that unhappy here? I am just curious as to why the delay to leave?

Timothy Miller 11-10-2023 02:07 PM

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Originally Posted by business_kid (Post 6464059)
I'd let him go, urge him even.

I've received some fairly harsh replies here too, but usually I deserved them. I can only narrow my suspicions to two posters who might be getting under his skin. It's just as well he didn't join for the BSD forums! Some straight talking is done there.


And you'd probably be right...it's TB0ne. And under every circumstance that he's complained about, everything TB0ne mentioned was accurate. OP never tried to do any of their own research (or at least didn't appear to from what they posted), didn't like the fact that the answers given weren't what they wanted, and wasn't willing (from what they posted) to put any of their own time into finding an alternative answer. So despite that I think TB0ne often goes a bit overboard, in this particular case, he was completely in the right with his posts.

TB0ne 11-10-2023 04:18 PM

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Originally Posted by etcetera (Post 6464051)
I tried to reach the owner of the site weeks ago regarding the aforementioned behavior, wasn't sure how to message him.

To clarify for other users; you look at Jeremy's profile...click "Contact Info"->"Send Private Message". Or look at any of the easily-found "Contact Us" links at the bottom of EVERY PAGE.
Quote:

The only way to get attention was by posting here instead of more common sense PMs. So I did. We have PM functionality disabled. Now it's a moot point.
Nope...PM's work fine, if members choose to get them.
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Since apparently there won't be a satisfactory resolution to this predicament I articulated even after escalation here. Since I can't use the site without being stalked and harassed in response to _every_ _single_ _article_ I post with a condescending and criticizing attitude from a single determined member, sanctioned apparently by the admins, which I find that unpalatable as a big picture. I tried to communicate my frustration, tried to identify other forms of engagement without mutual aggravation, it didn't register and no resolution was identified. It's a community of people, not perfect robots. Yet I am expected to perform like a automaton, caught in a "Seinfeld's Soup Nazi" episode lest I get a regular diet of acid liquid thrown at me in every response. God forbid some of the posts are somewhat redundant (as my understanding of the problem is more and more refined). A prime offense for sure. My vision is increasingly not aligned with the above processes. All this puts me in a position where the only possible resolution that I can identify at this point is to find another community I can help to grow, contribute to and learn within, not reward such delinquent behavior here with my responses and gather "infractions" if I decide to voice my legitimate frustration. I find that attitude especially alienating as an established, long-term member with a long professional experience in the field, not someone who came on board yesterday to troll here or seek conflict. It has been 20 years here and apparently 20 years is enough to seek greener pastures at this point. I tried and tried.
Sorry, no...you didn't and your posting history is VERY evident of that, and the melodrama and hand-wringing is especially entertaining. You don't help a community 'grow' by constantly asking for handouts. If you have a "long professional experience in the field", why is it an alien concept to attempt to do research of your own?? Why does that make you an 'automaton'???
https://www.linuxquestions.org/quest...ia-4175726951/
https://www.linuxquestions.org/quest...to-4175729216/

And this typifies your behavior:
https://www.linuxquestions.org/quest...6/#post5958589
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Thank you for hosting me. November 24th, 2023 - that's my resignation date. I am giving a 2 week notice, please delete my account and all my posts on 11/24/23. Respectfully yours.
As others have said, you can leave now...why bother with a 'two week notice'??? Just go if you're going. And AGAIN, did you bother to read anything about LQ?? The rules? Guidelines?? Anything??? Like the parts about not deleting accounts and posts??? This goes hand-in-hand with you not doing much/any research on your own.

jefro 11-10-2023 06:35 PM

RANT ahead.

Ignore is best currently. Ignore by settings or just ignore posts.

Not to be too woke but every member needs to feel like LQ is a friendly place to go for help and support. This should be the standard that every person does by default you'd think. Can't get more simple than that.

As a mod I don't have full control over many things. If I did I'd make sure that replies are polite and technical. I'd ask folks to ignore replying to threads just to harass other members. There are so many people that could use technical support that I find it odd that a few members seem to be picked on.

Having technical skill is only part of what makes a good reply on a thread.

Hey, it's the real world. D*^ks and Jerks online and in real person. Be a good person inside, be kind to others.

rtmistler 11-11-2023 09:20 AM

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Originally Posted by etcetera (Post 6464051)
I tried to reach the owner of the site weeks ago regarding the aforementioned behavior, wasn't sure how to message him.

The Contact Us link at the bottom of any LQ page.

Anyways, seems like you reached them.

pan64 11-11-2023 11:41 AM

Yes, it is a community of people, not perfect robots. And you are expected to perform according to the rules of this group, that's all. I think every community has rules, including anthills and drug cartels (for example).
I understand that you are frustrated because you were faced with ignoring said rules (several times). It is your choice whether to join and accept the rules or not. See rules: By becoming a member you agreed to adhere to these guidelines.
Adhering to the guidelines (becoming a member) and refusing the rules in the same time is not a legitimate option, but a prime offense.
So if you wish help to grow, contribute to and learn within you are very welcome. Do not criticize other members, but discuss their posts. See rule: Personal attacks on others will not be tolerated.
Regarding your account: see here (remember, you agreed)

It is still your own decision to remain a member or not.


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