alright so at least i can now verify that mysql is working
(i can go to etc/init.d and then type mysql ). during the reinstall i hit yes when it asked to start at boot time.
but i think i have a firewall problem now... because even after a restart i still cant remote access my database. even when i try to access it when im logged onto the linux box.
me@MyAgony:~$ telnet localhost 3306
Trying 127.0.0.1...
telnet: Unable to connect to remote host: Connection refused
according to my calculations i should only have ipchains installled
MyAgony:/home/me# dpkg -l | grep fire
ii ipchains 1.3.10-15 Network firewalling for Linux 2.2.x
ii xfwp 4.1.0-16woody3 X firewall proxy server
MyAgony:/home/me#
because i just unistalled xfwp which took with it the "x-window-system" and i still have the problem.
so where good begginer tutorial for ipchains... ive seen tutorials for this stuff before and i was amazed at how complex it is to configure.