finally i have done it and it works, i connect straight away on iphones androids etc etc!!!
followed this guide -
http://blog.earth-works.com/2013/02/...r-on-centos-6/
but in the "ipsec.conf" file i deleted both "strong" commands
i didnt create a new host key for the server, i just added the new line for the PSK in the file "ipsec.secrets"
and the reason why it wasnt working for me is you need to NAT another port on your firewall not just the ports it mentions -
Ports 1701 UDP, 4500 UDP and 500 UDP and also not mentioned 50 UDP
thats it